Today, what I am going to write and speak to, do not have any relation with what I or you have learned or applied so far. Neither, I have any intention of writing anything generic, but still I want to convey, certain facts that hold our life, questions our value and asks us to remember our upbringing. You may be thinking than what I am going to say? Is it about family, individuals, the recent news or anything philosophical? To answer, these question, I would simply say that I am going to talk about everyone, the value that one holds, the freedom, we have conquered and more or the less what we personally think when we are alone in this highly populated world with so many relationships to acclaim.
I would like to start from our individuality. What am I and where am I to go? Have I ever thought of or ponder on it? Then I realized no. No, I have never got to have such feelings, I hardly ever felt so. Why I am thinking so? Then with a flash, it comes to my mind. I realize, I was never given a freedom to think what I want to think? Suddenly, what troubles my mind is the interrogative word why? Why I am not capable of taking decisions, why, I feel I am not confident enough to take things? It’s just because I am not brought up in that way. Then again, why? Why so? It’s because my caretakers have no way tried to help me out to break convictions that hold no importance.
I would better relate this with an incident. Yesterday, I got to know from a television channel where a guy has been married for last three years and serves as manager of a reputed company that he owes. He informed his parents that he was married past three years. Meanwhile, when parents of both boy and girl came to know they started rebuking their children for such a shameful act and questioned their relationship. They spoke to them and said that this was a wrong decision and was not acceptable from their side. Similarly, one of my close friends and a colleague discussed with me about a guy who at the age of 29 decided to get married. However, his parents hardly showed any of their concerns. Finally, he at the age of 31 got married to a girl of his choice and got settled in states. Since then, he neither interacted with his parents nor communicated.
One more story goes where a guy is been asked to get married to a girl of his parents’ choice. He is no one to take his decisions. Whether he likes or not he is supposed to bow down to his parents and relative wishes and accept his fate the way they decide. His denial and acceptance hardly matters and by any means he has to say yes to the girl walking in, irrespective of what he wants or what he seeks in girl.
Now, these incidents some way or the other relates to ones upbringing. Parents always consider themselves to be the protector and destiny maker of kids. Many parents have given better future but have we ever realized that are we capable enough to make our future more better and understandable, take our decisions and sustain in future. Have we ever released that these norms at times don’t fit into our situations? No, we never possess that confidence to question things, but why? Is that we do not trust what we have studied so far is worth enough or our knowledge and understanding that we have accumulated since time is useless? If this is not right than why are we still slaves of things and talks that do not hold importance. Why are we slave of the norms that have existed for years and years and feel difficult to follow innovative concepts and thoughts?
Well, it may be because we still need to revise our education, re-learn what we have studied as a part of our curriculum and educate our living status with ethics. Till we do, we would be questioning these elements.